Mormon Wives’ Jessi Claims Jordan Blackmailed Her, More Affair Revelations

The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives star Jessi Ngatikaura made some startling confessions about husband Jordan Ngatikaura including how he blackmailed her after her affair, what they lied about on screen and more.

During the Wednesday, November 19, episode of “The Viall Files” podcast, Jessi, 33, opened up about her relationship with Jordan and shared that she faced similar issues of emotional abuse in her first marriage.

“My muscle memory is me being used to being yelled at. I remember when I was first married, there were really hard moments,” Jessi said about former husband Zach. “He was super emotionally abusive — I would say more so than Jordan, to be honest.”

She continued: “Jordan is [emotionally abusive] in different ways but I had already dealt with worse. So it was normal for marriage where it’s just hard. At least it’s not as bad as my first one. But then over time, it got to that point where it was as bad.”

Season 3, which debuted on Thursday, November 13, showed Jessi coming clean about a two-week emotional affair with Vanderpump Villa’s Marciano Brunette. During the show, she also addressed the emotional abuse she experienced with Jordan and how they found a way to reconcile.

Jessi’s podcast appearance on Wednesday told a different story, however, as she unpacked what never aired, what she wasn’t honest about on screen and how bad things really got in her marriage to Jordan. Keep scrolling for her biggest revelations:

“We were both married before. Jordan was in a long term relationship after his first marriage so he had had an on and off girlfriend for three to four years. I was married for five years,” Jessi recalled. “Around the time I left my husband, Jordan was breaking up with that girlfriend of four years and he had already been divorced since he was 18.”

Jessi met Jordan at a gathering through mutual friends.

My husband actually came with me to a couple of [these group dinners]. One of the dinner parties right after I separated, I showed up alone and Jordan was like, ‘Where’s your husband?’ I was like, ‘We separated, we’re getting divorced,’” she added. “He’s like, ‘Me and my girlfriend just broke up last week.’ So we just sat and talked for hours about our breakups and we just bonded over that. Then a week or two later, he asked me out and I said yes.”

Jessi continued: “I was going through divorce while dating Jordan, which was not recommended. I definitely moved on too quickly. But at the time, I felt like I was probably just looking for a distraction and something to help heal the pain of the divorce.”